Is it true?
Is it necessary?
Is it kind?

This past year, I have been trying to ask my children these questions before they start talking about one of their siblings (and by "talking", I mean tattling).
I ask them if what they are about to say about this person is true to their knowledge?
If so, explain the necessity of coming to me about it - is it to benefit the relationship or are you coming to me to vent your frustrations and convince me to take sides?
And if we determine that what they are about to say is true and necessary, we talk about whether or not it is kind and useful for building that person up.

While I have been teaching this concept to them, as per usual, the Lord has been convicting me of the importance of practicing what I preach.
As we begin this New Year, I felt led to share with you what God has been teaching me:

Our words matter.

The Bible is quick to remind us of the power that lies on the tongue (Proverbs 18:21, James 3:5-6, 9-10). While it is important that we speak the truth, sometimes it is not always necessary or beneficial (Ephesians 4:29).

As Christ followers, we ought to be prayerful and thoughtful before speaking.
Be compassionate towards one another and willing to forgive the shortcomings of others because God has been gracious to forgive your shortcomings (Ephesians 4:32).

My encouragement to you as we start 2025 is to read through Ephesians 4 and be prayerful about how you can implement this teaching in your own heart.

And may we remember this year to always be "completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love, making every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace."

Happy New Year!

- Autumn C.